No somos novios ahora somos amigos

This phrase "No somos novios ahora somos amigos" we heard many times in Spain, even yesterday we heard in a bus in which we were traveling towards northern border of Spain surrounded by Cantabria sea (Coastal sea of the Atlantic Ocean) to reach a beach (visit this beach) in Cantabria province. A girl was sitting behind our seat and talking over phone with someone. She said 'No estamos junto' 'Él me dejó porque él quería pero hemos quedado que serémos amigos" "Ahora no somos novios, somos amigos". Do you understand what she was trying to say. We translate for you. She said ove phone that now her boyfriend and she were not together. Her boyfriend left her because he wanted to do but they agreed to stay as friends. She said "Now we are not boyfriend & girlfriend but we are friends i.e. Ahora no somos novios, somos amigos." 

This is not first time we heard this phrase. We heard many times from a day when we started to live in Spain, actually we can say the day when we started to understand Spanish language. Even few of our own friends they used this phrase for informing us that he is not with her girlfriend or if our friend is a girl, then she informs us that she is not with her boyfriend but they agreed to stay as friends.

Sometimes we asked our friends why they agreed to stay as friends although both of you don't like each other now. You talk about him or her now, like your partner is only responsible person for broken hearts and you are not responsible. One character, which we always found, is common and it is quite interestingvalso that each of them blames to partner for breaking the relationship, always showing that he or she is not responsible. We found this when we spoke them individually in separate places. Most of times we found they start to avoid to be present on a same place at a same time after break-up. However, the talks with them mostly reveal that both are responsible, however, of course, who is going to say them. 

Now the question is why they  decided to stay as friends after break-up. What do you think? Why? In Spain we know the reason because most of them told us. They still have a hope "Who knows we will back again to live together again and our live-in relationship starts again. We stay as friends in case the relationship works again later. At present, simply, it is accepted in a positive way that our relationship does not work and nothing happens, both of us accept this reality in order to avoid any trauma, damage, negativity."

It's interesting because it seems your hate is temporary for few days, months or years and there is a chance of returning back for living together again. Is it happen in your country? This is a question and you may answer it in comment section. 

However, we have never found anyone around us who returned to his girlfriend or her boyfriend after break-up. Normally they found a new person and they present us saying "Mira, te presento mi novio" o "Mira, te presento mi novia y es muy buena". But we are sure there would be cases when a break-up partners would have started again live-in relationship. 

Have you heard any time a terminology "Friend with benefits". In UK, it is a popular terminology and may be in USA & Australia also. If you live in these countries, you can confirm. 

We are sure you are thinking about "benefits". "Friend" terminology is OK. Everyone knows it very well but "with benefits". What is this? Here benefits refer to sexual relationship i.e. "A friend with whom you have casual sexual relationship". Few days ago, someone explained us this terminology. We really surprised. In Spain, it is called "Follaamiga o Follaamigo". Are we correct? 

Overall story is that "No somos novios ahora somos amigos" seems us allowing "Friend with benefits". May be it remains in halt when one is with a next partner. May be we are wrong. You can correct us. 

This is our opinion & understanding and you may not agree with us. This opinion is not for harming anyone and it is to rediscover or rethink about yourself & your surroundings events. 

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